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  • Banky W Defends Cooking at Home, Says Marriage Roles Shouldn’t Follow Society

    Nigerian singer Banky W has opened up on how responsibilities are shared in his home with wife, Adesua Etomi-Wellington, saying their arrangement is based on personal preference rather than societal expectations.

    Banky W addresses viral cooking video

    Speaking on The Teju Babyface Show, the music star reacted to a viral clip of him cooking sausages, eggs, and bacon, which sparked debate about gender roles in marriage.

    He explained that while his wife can cook, it is not something she enjoys, unlike him.

    “My wife does not really cook, which she can cook very well, but it’s not her thing,” he said.

    ‘It works for us’ — singer explains

    Banky W said he genuinely enjoys cooking and sees nothing unusual about taking up that role at home.

    “I love cooking. I enjoy cooking and I love eating and she loves eating. It works for us,” he said.

    He added that some visitors are often surprised to see him in the kitchen, noting that such reactions reflect societal expectations rather than personal realities.

    Singer urges couples to avoid pressure

    The singer stressed that every relationship is different and should not be shaped by external opinions.

    “What works for you will be different from somebody else. Don’t live your life by somebody else’s expectations or rules,” he said.

    Mixed reactions trail comments

    His remarks have sparked varied reactions online, with some supporting his stance and others questioning the shift from traditional roles.

    Some users praised his perspective on partnership and understanding, while others argued that responsibilities in marriage should follow more conventional patterns.

    The conversation has since grown into a broader debate about gender roles, expectations, and evolving dynamics in modern relationships.

  • “Run From Men With Sweet Tongues” — Adeboye Warns Women Over Flattery

    The General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Pastor Enoch Adeboye, has advised women to be wary of men who use excessive flattery, warning that such behaviour can be deceptive.

    Adeboye shares personal experience

    Speaking during a sermon, the cleric recounted an encounter from his younger days when he used charming words to impress a woman.

    He said the incident only made sense to him after he became born again.

    “I was a bad boy before I got born again… there was this very beautiful lady and I was making some plans,” he said.

    Unexpected reaction from woman

    Adeboye explained that he complimented the woman repeatedly, praising her physical features in poetic terms.

    However, he said the woman suddenly turned and ran, leaving him confused at the time.

    “All of a sudden she did something strange. She turned round and began to run. I said what’s wrong with you?” he recalled.

    Warning against excessive flattery

    Reflecting on the experience, the cleric said he later understood the reaction, linking it to biblical guidance.

    He warned that constant praise focused on physical appearance should be seen as a red flag.

    “The Bible says flee… when a brother comes and begins to talk about your body… run,” he said.

    Mixed reactions trail comment

    His remarks have since sparked conversations online, with varying opinions on relationships, intentions, and personal boundaries.

  • “Don’t Marry a Woman Who Can’t Cook” — Adeboye Sparks Debate Over Marriage Advice

    Pastor Enoch Adeboye has sparked widespread reactions after sharing his views on the qualities he considers essential when choosing a spouse.

    Adeboye shares marriage advice during sermon

    Speaking during a sermon, the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God advised men to prioritise practical attributes such as cooking ability and hospitality when selecting a partner.

    He suggested that these traits are key to building a stable home and sustaining family life.

    Focus on character, intelligence, and hospitality

    According to Adeboye, beyond physical attraction, qualities like intelligence, good character, and the ability to manage the home effectively should guide marital decisions.

    He referenced biblical teachings to support his position, stressing that these values remain important in relationships.

    “If she can’t cook, you’re heading for trouble”

    In his remarks, he said, “Don’t marry a girl who cannot cook… If she can’t cook, even if a prophet says this is your wife, say thank you, keep her. Because if she can’t cook, if she can’t be hospitable, you’re heading for trouble.”

    He added that the Bible outlines expectations for a wife, including being intelligent and hospitable.

    Mixed reactions trail his comments

    The statement has since triggered debate across social media, with opinions sharply divided.

    While some supported his emphasis on traditional roles and domestic skills, others argued that modern relationships should be based on shared responsibilities and evolving gender expectations.

    The discussion reflects ongoing conversations around marriage, culture, and changing social values in Nigeria.

  • Bisi Adewale Warns Against Long ‘Omugwo’ Trips Abroad, Says Couples Must Travel Together

    Marriage counselor and cleric, Bisi Adewale, has cautioned against the growing trend of women travelling abroad for extended childcare support, popularly known as omugwo.

    He expressed concern about the impact of long separations on families, especially elderly couples.

    ‘It Affects Marital Balance’

    Speaking during a recent teaching session, Adewale said the practice often leaves elderly men alone while their wives remain abroad for years.

    He described the situation as unhealthy for emotional connection and marital stability.

    “Another thing I hate is for a woman to escape to Canada to do omugwo for three years… that’s how you’ll see a 75-year-old man going around to buy boli,” he said.

    Calls for Joint Travel Decisions

    The cleric advised couples to take joint decisions when it comes to travelling abroad for family support roles.

    According to him, marriage should remain a partnership regardless of circumstances.

    “If you’re going to Canada, we’re going together… I’ll get a hotel,” he added.

    Concerns Over Family Separation

    Adewale noted that prolonged separation can weaken companionship, especially in older marriages where emotional bonding is crucial.

    He suggested that families should explore alternatives that keep couples together while fulfilling childcare responsibilities.

    Wider Conversation on Migration and Family Life

    His comments add to ongoing discussions in Nigeria about how migration and long-distance family arrangements are reshaping traditional family structures.

    The debate around omugwo abroad continues to generate mixed reactions, especially among younger families navigating global relocation.