I’m grateful my marriage failed – Kaffy

The popular Nigerian dancer and choreographer, Kafayat Oluwatoyin Shafau popularly known as Kaffy say she is grateful that her marriage to Joseph Ameh failed.

The veteran Nigerian entertainer made the Shocking revelation in an Instagram post on Wednesday, the entertainer said she was grateful her marriage failed because she was blind and could now see.

Appreciating those who showed concerning the crash of her marriage she stated that she wants to use her marriage to help those who want to be better at marriage therefore she is happy it failed.

She wrote: “Failure is information not condemnation! Mine will be used to help those who want to do better and be better. Marriage can work but let’s all get off our high horses of wishful thinking and face the realities required to make it work” she wrote.

“Those who know me know that I am more than a dancer. I explore my full humanity through dance. I am an advocate for human excellence and productivity. My marriage failed for so many reasons and I am grateful I failed because I was blind and now I see”.

“Follow me and I go show you wetin I see so you won’t fall like me. And if you do… you shall RISE… I am KAFFY”.

Kaffy got married to Joseph Ameh, a music director in 2012, the union was  blessed with two children. But rumours would later spread a few months ago that they had split.

Kaffy recently confirmed the rumours, noting that they had gone their separate ways to ensure their individual growth.

Speaking of the issue in an episode of her podcast, She said: “I’ve always wanted to see my ex as the best version of him. Taking a chance of breaking up this marriage was also to see that we both grow into what we really really are supposed to be.” 

“Marriage is supposed to be an alignment of destinies driving towards a place God wants for them. Mine didn’t really work out that way. Rather than looking at somebody as a problem, sometimes you could be the problem of that person.

“Being an enabler of someone not being able to do what they’re supposed to do can also be that you are supposed to be in that space. So there was a lot to learn and there’s still a lot more to learn.

“And I want to, you know, express that and motivate you to understand that life is not all about reacting to the world. It’s not about answering to what the world wants you to hear, be, wear, look like, and want you to marry.”

“I wanted to spread my wings. I felt like I was pregnant and I couldn’t have a child. I felt like my wings were closed in and I was boxed in. I was yearning for more but didn’t realise what sacrifice will come with that,” she had said.

“I paid the price of [not] having a connection with my children. Coming to Nigeria, I would stay in my room sometimes and cry, like, ‘oh my gosh, what am I doing?’ I left them. My daughter was 13 and my son was 11.”