Can a Cheating Wife Love Her Husband?

Married folks never imagine their relationship ending in infidelity. However, it has been the leading cause of broken homes in recent times.

We’ve been familiarized with the notion that men are susceptible to cheating or “men are dogs”, right? Some of us believe it so much that we have come into acceptance that it is their nature and we can do nothing but accept them for who they are.

Well, Women cheat as much as men do — if not more — but, we just don’t like to talk about it and we don’t like to think about it. It’s okay as long as the husband doesn’t find out because they’d be hurt?

Yes, men tend to be more hurt when they find out their woman cheats than when they cheat themselves. Why? Well, research shows that men could make out with another woman just for sex but this isn’t so for women unless she’s promiscuous.

The theory holds that a woman needs to have some sort of connection with a man before they choose to sleep with him. Hence, one of the reasons why men let them go; they believe a cheating woman doesn’t love her husband anymore to do so.

But, is this really the ultimate truth? Can a cheating woman love her husband? Quite a tough question, I know. So, let’s go over some reasons women cheat before we finally answer that.

Some Reasons Women Cheat

There are so many reasons why women cheat. I mean, different women cheat for different reasons. Some of the reasons include but are not limited to the following.

1. Crave for Intimacy: We all want intimacy — whether physical or emotional. If a woman is not getting it from her relationship, she might find it somewhere else.
2. Unmet need(s): Women cheat when they find a man who can meet the needs their primary partner can’t.
3. Anger or Retribution: Some women use infidelity as retaliation for the resentment they have against their partner.
4. Lack of love for/from primary partner: At times, couples tend to grow apart or married for several wrong reasons that don’t concern love.
5. For the Sex: Despite the perception that men cheat for sex while women cheat for emotion, women appreciate good sex just like anyone else.

Loneliness in marriage plays a major role in affairs. Out of boredom, women turn to infidelity to fill a physical and emotional void left unfulfilled by the partner.

I think this needs to be addressed because men think if they fail to provide for the home, they are worse than an infidel just like the holy book says. What they fail to realize is that a woman needs more than financial provision. They need love and attention and care and all of the things that attracted them to you in the first place. Yes, maybe not as much or regular as it used to be but once in a while, they need to feel young and loved.

Okay, enough of the counselling. Let’s get right into the question.

Can a Cheating Woman Still Love Her Husband?

When this question was posed to the general audience on Quora, there were varying perceptions and answers. While some believe it is possible, some believe it isn’t. Therefore, we’d be looking at some of the top opinions from the two perspectives.

A Cheating Wife Can Not Love Her Husband

Maureen Lagasse says:

No. To cheat is to act dishonestly or unfairly in order to gain an advantage for yourself. It is betrayal, and to betray a person is the deepest emotional wound you can deliver them.

There is no love in dishonesty, unfairness, or taking advantage of someone for your own pleasure. There is no love in betrayal. None.

Emilia Weber says:

No, I don’t think so. Cheating on your husband simply means that you don’t love him and you don’t care about his feelings. I’m sorry, but it’s true. If you are unfaithful, you are not in love. I know people “make mistakes.” I know we’re “all human.” But straying isn’t something you do when you respect and care for your partner, and if you cheat on someone, then you don’t love that person. Of course, some relationships can survive this kind of indiscretion and even potentially become stronger for it. However, infidelity may just be an indication that things should have ended long ago.

Afolarin Mary says:

This is the worst definition of love, how can love hurt if it’s true? No woman who loves her husband would cheat on him; they would rather suffer than bring suffering to their beloved.

Let us stop promoting what’s destructive and teach what’s constructive. A wife cannot love two men at once she will only love him for her desires. Wives must focus on the husband they have married and look to them without staring sideways keep on the road without distraction.

A Cheating Wife Can Still Love Her Husband

Shy-C Says:

Well, I’ve never been a wife, but I have cheated and I think it is possible she could still love you. I mean sometimes we feel like something in the relationship is missing and so we go to others to try and find that certain something and could realize too late that we messed up and took for granted what we had and actually loved. Just my opinion though, but if it happens again or continues, then no she probably doesn’t love you.

Nibir Nandi says:

Depends on the reason for cheating. If she is cheating for sexual frustration, there is a good chance of love; she can also cheat for getting things done or promoted, and still be loving.

But for whatever reason she is cheating, she is gonna lose the emotional and physical bond with his partner gradually and that will be the end of the relationship.

Mark Haccius says:

Yes. Although you could argue that if she really loved him, she wouldn’t, history is full of cheaters who maintain they love their spouses nonetheless. People don’t want to get caught cheating because they don’t want to face the consequences: divorce, alimony, loss of assets but also, often, because they want to spare the person the pain of betrayal; they don’t want to hurt the person they love.

Conclusion

These opinions do not apply to only women; it equally answers whether or not a cheating husband can still love his wife. Women and men alike should understand that infidelity in marriage is a breach of trust, and betraying someone you claim to love doesn’t sound very much like love.

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